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Jun. 24th, 2011

I'm always a little confused when I hear people talking about being taught that marriage is between a man and a woman--it's something so far outside of my childhood experience I almost can't understand it.

The truth is, I don't think anyone ever taught me anything about marriage. I knew that my parents were married; I knew that my friends' parents were married. I knew that when people were unmarried, it was called getting a divorce.

But as far as I know, no one in my life ever sat me down and defined marriage for me. I learned everything by osmosis. I never heard that it was between a man and a woman.

What I learned was this:

I was eight, and in summer camp, and the other kids were making fun of a boy I didn't like. They were calling him gay, and I was too.My dad picked me up, and I was babbling, like kids do, saying the kid was gay and stupid and sucked.

My dad stopped the car. He turned to me and said, "Chash, do you know what gay means?"

I didn't.

He said, "If you're gay, it means you like people of the same sex. There's nothing wrong with it, and it's nothing to be ashamed of, and I never want to hear you using that word like that again."

That's what I remember my parents teaching me, and I am glad every day that they did.

Thanks, New York ♥


Jun. 25th, 2011 03:45 am (UTC)
I'm a very proud NYer right now. Your story was lovely and shows the importance of teaching our children what matters most -- respect. Good for your folks!